My husband and our lack of life?..How do i get him to be more open in talking about this?

Hiya - yes, it seems to me that you have a lovely cycle of behaviour in place. You want him to initiate and he is waiting for you...you know he is waiting for you but you don't want to initiate as you want him to ....see the picture? You want him to initiate because that will make you feel like you are irresistable and y and he probably feels the same!!! Break the cycle, make the moves...forget all the nonsense and yes, it would be great if he initiated but some people just aren't comfortable with that very obvious move. Some of the cuddling and affection you speak of is perhaps the subtle way of intitiating? Anyway, marriage is not a good forum for games. You should ask for what you want in a straightforward way and initiate it and get back to having an active life before the switch gets turned off for good - your husband is on 'hibernation mode' which is where humans go if they can't get 'it' - they turn their attention to other things. When you pull husband out of hibernation, he will get frisky again and be making it more obvious that he wants it.